Tuesday, June 27, 2023

What Makes a House a Home - Kelly Knapp

 “What a lovely house!” (my first thought) “What a lovely LAKE!” (when I got out of the car) “What lovely people!” (meeting the Knapps for the first time). I was on my first “leadership retreat” for a Pitt ministry, and the Knapps were hosting our college ministry leadership team for a spiritual retreat. That August weekend Henry Sr. and Lucy Knapp took off emptying their gorgeous lake home to us. A bunch of immature, rag tag, obnoxiously loud college students. Fifteen of us! If that’s not a picture of grace, I don’t know what is. “Here. It’s yours. Take care of it and have fun!”

 The “Conneaut Lake House” is where Henry grew up. It is lakefront and lovely. Fast forward 34 years: I was sitting with Hebron’s All Moms’ leadership team at the Lake House in January. We were up there to pray and plan, be still and share—and still delighting in that home and that lake. I was reflecting on the fact that this is my happy place. It means so much to me. Yet, I was dreading 2023 for I knew the “end of a good thing” was upon us. I could feel it coming: The Knapps/the people/the memories will not be here once this house is sold. I’m not exaggerating when I say hundreds and hundreds of people have come through that house. It’s been used for parties, gatherings, cousin time, grandkids, ministry, retreats, ministers, missionaries, and many, many friends. Most of all, it has housed my precious in-laws.

 And yet, it’s just a house. I am struck by how quiet that house is now. Since last fall, no one has been there. There is no presence. No laughter. No holidays and gatherings. And this July 4th there will be no swimming, no pontoon boat, no fireworks, and no annual cookout. The Knapps (Henry’s parents) are not there. (They are still in Florida due to Henry’s father’s illness). The walls would speak of so much activity, so much joy, heated discussions, much laughter, and a lot of chaos. What makes the story, however, is the gift of PRESENCE in that place. Ultimately, Henry and Lucy are missing. The presence is gone.

 You know the saying “a house is a house - but love makes a home.” I want to take that a step further. It’s the presence of the people that make a home. Presence is our greatest provision. This week’s psalm, Psalm 84, speaks of the DWELLING place of God. The Psalmist is longing for God, to be where God is. He wants to know His presence, not just the building of the Temple. That is the Psalmist’s longing and what is causing him to almost faint.  He can’t get enough of God.

 I have always wondered if I can really say along with the Psalmist—“Better is one day in your courts, oh Lord, than a thousand elsewhere!” Do I mean it? Is that true of me?

 I want to love God and HIS PRESENCE more than anything else in my life. I want to know that His presence is what makes my heart His home. Otherwise, it would be empty, barren and useless. This is what moves me from loving a house (a happy place!) to loving the Lord and His people more. Am I so fixated on a house that I could miss He who dwells there?

 The Conneaut house is just a house, and I release it to the Lord. “Better is one day…” Forget the lake this summer! I want to be in His presence, longing for Him, praising Him, knowing Him more. No matter what life brings. Hallelujah! 

 For worship this Sunday, read Psalm 84.

1. What makes the psalmist talk about God’s dwelling place as “lovely”? What do you think he has in mind?

 2. What about the building would make the psalmist so very passionate (Verse 2)? Is there a parallel in your life? In the church today?

 3. In verse 4, it appears that the psalmist is “blessing” birds. What is the meaning of this? Why do the birds receive his blessing?

 4. Geography lesson: “The Valley of Baca” is an incredibly arid place, where no one goes if they can avoid it. In verse 6, the pilgrims go through the valley. How does the author capture the idea of God’s blessing?

 5. Verse 10 is the capstone of this psalm. What is the job of a doorkeeper? It’s evident that the author is expressing his eagerness here, but eagerness for what? How might this be captured in today’s world?